tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post4806519735885611004..comments2023-11-10T03:16:31.702-05:00Comments on Greatest Escapist: Making Friends in Real Life is HARD, Yo.Suburban Sweethearthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03014426590429844380noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-15173164516052322052011-03-30T13:25:53.067-04:002011-03-30T13:25:53.067-04:00It really is a bitch to make friends after college...It really is a bitch to make friends after college, the last frontier of ready made social networks. I have joined a gym that caters to the younger professional crowd, but haven't made any real friends through it (not that I've reaaally tried though). <br /><br />Definitely try something more conducive to conversation, rather than to grunting and wiping off sweat.April Blakehttp://twitter.com/Theaprilblakenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-74861899979720135352011-03-15T23:08:31.056-04:002011-03-15T23:08:31.056-04:00I have no idea how to make friends as a grown up. ...I have no idea how to make friends as a grown up. When I smoked, I met people that way at my old apartment, but then I quit smoking and now I'm totally clueless as to how adults make friends. I love the idea of volunteering as a means of meeting other like-minded folks.terrahttp://terra-bear.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-22502813081298792672011-03-11T23:10:16.607-05:002011-03-11T23:10:16.607-05:00I've also found it really challenging to make ...I've also found it really challenging to make friends as an adult. I've made some through work, through my fiance, and through different activities like church, support groups (for diabetes), and through meetup.com. I've also made a lot of friends on Twitter and through blogging. So I think all your ideas are really good ones. I wish I had more friends or at least a *group* since most of my friends are just one-off people I've met randomly over the last 4 years. And now that I work at home too, it's even harder! But you'll get there, it just takes time. And if I'm ever in NH, I will look you up!Allison Blasshttp://www.lemonadelife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-71820448756238932192011-03-11T16:21:09.756-05:002011-03-11T16:21:09.756-05:00Where in NH? I have a really cool & fun friend...Where in NH? I have a really cool & fun friend that lives in NH. Let me know! :)steph annehttp://www.luxechandelier.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-91091458535792435212011-03-11T16:02:02.122-05:002011-03-11T16:02:02.122-05:00Sounds like a great jumping off point, for sure! I...Sounds like a great jumping off point, for sure! I'm all about volunteering + book clubs + library things. Do you guys have a pet? If so, dog parks or something similar might be kind of fun too, if nothing else to have someone to walk the dogs with =) I'm sure we'll talk more about this soon! <3Nora_Lnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-73522191004091122392011-03-11T08:22:38.306-05:002011-03-11T08:22:38.306-05:00I am actually quite impressed with your list. You ...I am actually quite impressed with your list. You could also try taking language classes, or sign-language classes, or try some kind of team sport? I doubt it is easy making new friends. A while ago I got a bit demoralised with my friendship group, so I moved into a shared house that is in a community of graduates. That helped me meet a lot of people.Andy Joneshttp://andyjonesx.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-36365339264883623222011-03-11T03:10:11.407-05:002011-03-11T03:10:11.407-05:00Yay UU church! My church is mainly elderly people ...Yay UU church! My church is mainly elderly people and it's glorious. In fact, I rarely went to church in DC because it just didn't have the same feel, read: too many young people. The old people will end up being great resources and friends and will probably introduce you to their millions of children and grandchildren. Fact.graceelenanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-37793547609792314222011-03-10T16:37:52.695-05:002011-03-10T16:37:52.695-05:00I've been meaning to hit up yoga class too. Le...I've been meaning to hit up yoga class too. Let's do it! Congrats on the move!Kristin & Meganhttp://twitter.com/BonBonRoseGirlsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-4456571803307537022011-03-10T15:37:26.189-05:002011-03-10T15:37:26.189-05:00Try Meetup groups. And maybe there are some Tweeps...Try Meetup groups. And maybe there are some Tweeps in your vicinity?Vickihttp://blog.vickiboykis.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-52246630380079933012011-03-10T14:27:37.247-05:002011-03-10T14:27:37.247-05:00I like the idea of the book club but not THAT book...I like the idea of the book club but not THAT book club. Actually, their recent reads are the reason I fear book clubs in general. I've read 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea (except, it was the original French version "Vingt Mille Lieues sous les Mers") and it really is as bad as it sounds. Have you thought of maybe forming your own book club?<br /><br />The Church thing could work. When my family originally moved to Canada they were Russian Orthodox but, joined the Catholic Church in their town to make friends.skinny_dipnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-37667992999851346782011-03-10T14:12:34.318-05:002011-03-10T14:12:34.318-05:00There's a really great book club through Meet-...There's a really great book club through Meet-Up by me, but I've never gone because I NEVER like their book selections! Sometimes, they can be good. But mostly? Horrible. Not my thing. Plus, I suck at joining groups like that. My anxiety always gets the best of me! Blah.Stephanyhttp://stephanywrites.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-25604871969906623832011-03-10T14:00:12.859-05:002011-03-10T14:00:12.859-05:00Believe it or not but I found my friends here thro...Believe it or not but I found my friends here through Facebook. Duh! There was a page for German wives in Fort Hood, I joined, hung out with some of the girls, we introduced the husbands and hung out some more. I have also been lurking around on MeetUp but have never been to one of the meetings. I think yoga would be a great way to meet people - or any sort of gym class for that matter. Good luck and yay for moving in with the boyfriend! :)Stefaniehttp://twitter.com/green_seedsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-59394008961601222152011-03-10T10:19:28.383-05:002011-03-10T10:19:28.383-05:00I used to attend a Unitarian church...there is a w...I used to attend a Unitarian church...there is a whole population of Jews out there that attend Unitarian churches, in fact...they are called "Jewnitarians"Lauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-30371996833886617892011-03-10T09:58:44.157-05:002011-03-10T09:58:44.157-05:00Joining a Meetup group was how I first met people ...Joining a Meetup group was how I first met people in my city when I moved here! That being said, that book group sounds awful! I think you should start your own book group -- put an ad up on Craigslist and/or Facebook for your own! I love to read, but I've never joined a book group because the selections are generally not aligned with my interests/tastes. I think it'd be fun to start a book group on a theme, though. Like "Books We Loved in Junior High" (dust off all your Babysitters Club books!!) or "Craftacular Books" (learning new tricks!).Grace D.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-60533317226446211702011-03-09T23:32:28.571-05:002011-03-09T23:32:28.571-05:00Volunteering is a great idea! Also, there has to b...Volunteering is a great idea! Also, there has to be some sort of young professional group in your town. That's how I met a few of my friends in (not so) lovely Texas.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.omstastic.com" rel="nofollow">omstastic</a>Mayhttp://www.omstastic.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-16127943379947901062011-03-09T22:46:48.603-05:002011-03-09T22:46:48.603-05:00I am with you... need to make some friends! lol
...I am with you... need to make some friends! lol <br /><br />are their any bloggers in that area that you can get to know through blogging and then meet in real life??<br /><br />meeting people in real life IS hard, especially once you get to be an adult. seems like everyone already has their friends and they aren't totally willing or open to you worming your way in. makes it hard.mrsashcakenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-14066749393826441222011-03-09T21:31:07.868-05:002011-03-09T21:31:07.868-05:00I couldn't agree more (that meeting people in ...I couldn't agree more (that meeting people in real life is hard). I moved to Akron for a job, and work WITH people and have been there 4 years. While I've formed one or two solid friendships with people I could call on the weekend, the older we get - the more set we are with our own individual lives, and frankly I don't always want to have to spend my time with coworkers, but I don't have any one else really. I have a friend and her husband I actually met online before moving here, years before, that once I moved here we managed to become close - but that's it. <br /><br />I thin a bookclub or volunteering would be great. Since I'm off all summer, I might steal the volunteering idea and give that a whirl :)susanhttp://fallingoutofplace.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-75682107867821373982011-03-09T21:04:58.832-05:002011-03-09T21:04:58.832-05:00Yoga is not a particularly great way to meet peopl...Yoga is not a particularly great way to meet people but as someone who has been doing bikram for all of 2 weeks, I highly recommend it for exercise purposes.Ariellehttp://morethanamermaid.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-33959447668597242242011-03-09T19:27:36.242-05:002011-03-09T19:27:36.242-05:00I love the WW idea :) but I agree with Mel's ...I love the WW idea :) but I agree with Mel's idea about Twitter they always have meetups :)xNadine-Adelehttp://nadiine.myopenid.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-71337954355702514812011-03-09T19:21:15.904-05:002011-03-09T19:21:15.904-05:00I went through a very similar situation when I mov...I went through a very similar situation when I moved to NYC in May. I only knew 2 people when I first arrived but I've made a ton of new friends. A lot of the people I hang out with are from my office or friends of my roommates. BUT I've also had good luck meeting people at the gym and I've been to a few Twitter meet ups. Does your college have a young alumni association? GW has an awesome group with lots of happy hours and events. It's definitely helped me meet people with similar interests!Leannanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-76001575906455729932011-03-09T19:10:55.956-05:002011-03-09T19:10:55.956-05:00LOL :-D
See?LOL :-D <br /><br />See?theTsaritsanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-16829831171468110712011-03-09T18:48:52.152-05:002011-03-09T18:48:52.152-05:00Hi Yelp friend! :PHi Yelp friend! :Psukihttp://superduperfantastic.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-32027942533788502942011-03-09T18:48:37.596-05:002011-03-09T18:48:37.596-05:00I've met a lot of people through volunteering ...I've met a lot of people through volunteering or groups that have a philanthropic focus/goal in mind. One I'm looking into these days is Rotaract. It's a young version of the Rotary Club. :) I also have met people through the internet, and we've turned those online introductions into actual real life interactions and friendships.sukihttp://superduperfantastic.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-37036096820605454742011-03-09T18:33:32.883-05:002011-03-09T18:33:32.883-05:00I work from home, just like you. Moved to a new ci...I work from home, just like you. Moved to a new city where I knew nobody (OK, one person who ended up making me stabby), just like you. <br /><br />And I've made friends! <br /><br />Check out Young Professional Groups. I found a "once a month" downtown lunch group AND a dinner club (I just KNOW I'll get along with fellow foodies). Beer events, I met like-minded peeps too (I also located a woman's only happy hour group on Meetup). I also made friends training for roller derby, so perhaps (if you're athletic or sports-minded), you could find a rec league to play in (not saying you HAVE to do derby, but flag football or kickball or something). Just some ideas. :) <br /><br />Also: twitter has been an amazing way to meet unique, interesting people -- seriously, it sounds cheesy, but I met a wide variety of friends here this way! Also, Pittsburgh PodCamp was so amazing and where I first met a lot of "tweeps" and bloggers who shared a lot of the same geeky passions.Melhttp://pursuitofyourboyfriend.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7019205786952575350.post-76324613262892661472011-03-09T18:09:41.787-05:002011-03-09T18:09:41.787-05:00You could work on your psychic abilities- then you...You could work on your psychic abilities- then you'll know everything you need to do to make friends! http://www.meetup.com/Seacoast-Psychic-Development-Spiritual-Expansion-Group/events/past/#initialized (took a guess as to where you live). <br /><br />I also agree that making friends is hard, and unfortunately I think it's harder when you're in a relationship and new to the area, b/c if you befriend a single person, it's awkward when the three of you hang out, and finding couple friends is doubly hard.Brennanoreply@blogger.com