At the start of 2013, I scribbled a few sentences on a legal pad. Each sentence was no more than five words long, nothing particularly in-depth - just a few written reminders of things to focus on in the new year. I didn't think too much before I started writing; I just went for it. I didn't put any pressure on myself to OMG achieve all these high-pressure goals or else; I just gently nudged myself in the direction of betterment & sort of hoped for the best.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, the not-putting-any-pressure-on-myself-to-become-a-really-awesome-version-of-me thing worked pretty well for me. Without pressure to achieve, I also felt no advance guilt about my likely failure (this should tell you basically everything you need to know about my entire personality) - and in that space between, I actually accomplished almost all of the items on my hastily written list.
This year, I'm taking a similar approach. My friend Jane wrote two lists - things to do more of in 2014 & things to do less of - & I'm going to try the same. As it turns out, all of items on my mental To Do This Year list can be summed up thusly: Be kind to myself.
In 2014, I'll try for a little bit less:
- Mindless surfing of social media
- Diet Coke
- Comparing myself to others
- Frivolous spending
- Intuitive eating
- New music
- Walking & exercising
- Red lipstick
- Plans & video chats with friends
- Good books
- Therapy and/or Ativan